We need to acknowledge the elephant in the room. It is a sin to hold onto grudges. There I have said it. It is a sin to hold onto grudges. I can hear the replies of people who would argue. "Wait a second! You don't know what they did!" "I have forgiven, but I will never forget!" "I have to make sure that they can never hurt me again!" "I have to make sure they will never hurt someone else again!" All these responses, I am sure, are seen as legit by the ones who make them. Deep hurt breeds harsh responses. Any of these responses can make a lot of sense, except... I once was told, "Hurt people hurt people, but healed people heal people." By holding onto a grudge, do you find yourself on the healed side of the spectrum, or on the hurt? By holding onto a grudge, are you committing yourself to healing others around you, or are you hurting them? It doesn't matter if you don't intend to. Does it really ma...